Rules are meant to be broken, and fashion rules are no different. Everyone wants definite rules of what are fashion “do’s” and “don’ts”. Fashion rules are not black and white. Think of them more as general guidelines that will get you in the right direction, but which require a little interpretation. Not all rules apply to everyone, so it is important that you are able to figure out what works or doesn’t work for your body, budget and lifestyle.
Here are 6 myths that may be holding you back from your true style potential:
1. Purse and Shoes Must Match. This is too matchy-matchy! Not to mention how limiting it is. As long as your shoes and purse “go” together, it works. Try and match either the purse or the shoes to your outfit and let the other piece compliment. The only exception to this is formal black tie type events. Having a matching shoe and bag can be quite elegant and polished looking.
2. Horizontal Stripes Make You Look Fat. Stripes were all the rage this summer and if you fell for this style myth, you missed out on a fun and classic summer piece. Everything from nautical tanks to slim, sexy dresses were bearing stripes. Stripes will draw attention to whatever area you are wearing them, so use them to show off your most flattering areas.
3. Sequins Are for After Hours Only. Sequins definitely say glam and glitz, but when you pair a sequin top with jeans and a great heel, you look perfectly styled and sophisticated day or night. The trick to wearing sequins during the day is keeping it minimal. A top with sequin trim or a sequin skirt paired with a simple top works for the day. Keep the sequin mini dress for evening.
4. It’s Either Gold Or Silver. Most people chose one or the other, but why not have both? Wearing gold and silver can make your accessories pop even more. When wearing the metals together, make sure that it looks intentional. Wear a couple pieces of each. Try a cluster of chunky bracelets or long chain necklaces in combinations of gold and silver.
5. Neutrals Don’t Mix. On the contrary. Mixing grey and brown, black and brown, navy and black…any of these combos is chic! Pull the look together by making it look intentional not accidental. Repeating colors and having balance in the opposing colors is important.
6. Never Combine Prints. Men have been doing this for years with their fun tie and shirt combinations. Why shouldn’t we? Prints add dimension and excitement to your clothes. Chose patterns that are different scales (large vs. small prints). Keep the rest of your accessories minimal to keep the look from getting too busy.
This holiday season you may have an assortment of different holiday parties to attend including office parties, get togethers with friends, charity events and the list goes on. In the past, many of us would go out and buy a whole new outfit from shoes to jewelry. However in today's economy, even those of us who can afford it, are cutting back. Money or not, I believe the best looks are the ones that look fabulous, yet effortless. Here's some tips for you to start putting together those holiday outfits without spending a whole lot or looking like you just spent your entire bonus in an effort to impress.
Keep It Classic This is a universal rule, no matter what the occasion. You can never go wrong with classic pieces. They are appealing to most people and you never risk being a fashion victim. No matter if you are headed to a conservative office party or a funky art gallery charity event, you'll fit in and be approachable. Men should wear dark ties in rich colors with a suit jacket for more formal events. A nice sport jacket in a solid color, subtle pattern or texture. Women should wear a tailored skirt and jacket or pretty blouse. Use jewelry like diamonds and pearls to add a little sparkle.
Rework What You Have Save your green for gifts and after holiday sales. It never makes sense to spend money on clothes that you are only going to wear a few times a year. Instead, shop in your closet. Men can do this pretty easily. Just use the same sport jacket and change the shirt and tie up. Contrary to our social belief, it's ok to wear the same dress twice. Take the dress you wore to the office party last week and wear it to the benefit party this week. Change up the accessories to make it feel new and different. I love black stone jewelry; it's different from your typical diamonds and still conveys a sleek elegance. It can also look edgy if done in the right way. Put the necklace from White House Black Market (above), with a simple black sheath dress (which you probably have in your closet) and you're instantly styled!
Keep It Simple Skip the Swarovski drenched dress and accessories. Use warm rich colors but keep it simple with the bling. I'm always a fan of a fun cocktail ring. It makes a good conversation piece and stands out without being obvious. Go for one standout piece. It could be a cool detail in your dress, bold earrings or a statement necklace. Limit yourself to one, otherwise you look like your trying too hard and your pieces start to compete for attention.
All men look more "manly" with a nice metal band watch. Skip the leather bands. A simple chain necklace works for men who naturally accessorize. If you do not normally wear a necklace, this is not the time to try it. You'll look uncomfortable.
Prioritize: Clothes, Shoes, Accessories If you feel like you have nothing in your closet that will work, then head to the stores. Based on your budget, spend the bulk of your money on the clothing, then the shoes, then the accessories. The clothing is going to be the largest, most noticeable piece on you. You not only want to have a quality piece that you can wear again and again, but you don't want to waste money on something that you don't love. Hopefully you can find shoes at home, but if not, then get a pair of shoes that will work for several special occasion outfits. Do not be matchy-matchy and get unique shoes that will only work with that particular outfit. You'll be wasting money.
Lastly, if you still have money left over in your budget, buy some accessories. If not, these are easy to borrow from a friend. You can pair inexpensive jewelry with a nice outfit. Some of the best jewelry I have is $10 from the B.P. department in Nordstrom. Target is a great source for some modern and fun pieces too!
Most importantly have fun and know that it isn't a fashion contest. It's about feeling good about the way you look and enjoying yourself at the party!